Even though I don't have children at the moment, I've always imagined what having kids would be like. Children are adorable creatures, and from the moment a child is conceived, most parents start thinking about what they would and wouldn't do for their child.
I've had such thoughts, even though I'm not expecting a kid. Here are the things I'll never do when it comes to my child.
I'll never compare my child with another child or make them feel less about themselves. This usually has a profound effect on kids. Some kids develop an inferiority complex as a result of such comparisons and this goes on to stay with them until adulthood. So you end up seeing an adult with a severe case of inferiority complex which is as a result of something that happened while they were growing up. Such individuals think lowly of themselves all the time, and they get easily intimidated by others.
For me, my kids will think highly of themselves. I'll make sure they feel loved and cherished. I'll never make them feel like they are not good enough. Rather, they'll be proud of who they are at every moment. When it comes to children, it's usually the little things that matter. Things as little as appreciating them when they achieve something no matter how small, telling and showing them you love them, praising and encouraging them when they face difficulty, all help in building up a child into someone who is ready and confident to take on the world.
I want to build a home that is a safe space for my kids. A home they are free to go to at any moment. In fact, I think I'm going to spoil my kids, but I don't care. My kids deserve to have the best life. I made a decision that no child of mine would lack anything, be it finance, love, care and many more. Also, I'll never be too strict with my kids to the point where they can confide in me about things that concern them. Most parents make this mistake and I don't want to go down that path with my kids.
Another thing I would never do is force them down a career path. What I'll do instead is to expose them at an early age. For example, I would love my first child to be a footballer. It has always been a wish of mine. I could try exposing that child to things relating to football from a very young age. The child could pick an interest in it and eventually pursue a career in football.
However, if I get the slightest inkling that the child doesn't like football, I'm going to stop the football agenda. Also, like most parents do, I'll make sure my children get to choose a career path they love and are passionate about, while making sure it is something worthwhile.
Lastly, I'll never let my children grow up without proper education. It's an absolute must. My children must get the best education. Education is paramount to me. I won't just give them any education. I'll make sure I give them the best education, no matter what it costs me.
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