Does he/she communicate with kind words?
I get it that you've been through life and walked through thorns to get to where you are, but that should be enough reason for you to be kind, because you know how bad the school of hard knocks has been and the experience has taught you a lesson.
I know you care about who you're speaking with in your own way but that should be enough reason for you to weigh your words so as to be able to make a non-fatal, long lasting impact in the mind and heart of the person.
What if the person is currently also going through a hard season he/she has no control over?
You can be kind and firm at the same time, you know. That one commands respect.
There's no way you won't have the person's undivided attention.
I've had conversations with people who are stinkingly rich. One conversation over the phone or on a group call even at the brink of loosing their cool was enough for me to fall in love with them and want to do better myself.
Then we have you, that feel you have arrived, throwing jabs at people when having a conversation and shaming their entire existence.
Why?
Everytime I meet a kind person and the conversation goes so well, I'm often reminded that there's always a better way to do things and the people who chose to speak unkindly to me in the past, there by drowning my self confidence were not my fault.
People, I don't wanna have anything to do with, even by chance.
No matter how much knowledge you have, people will always remember how you spoke to them.
REMEMBER THAT.
