Hello friends of this community; In this publication I am going to explain to you the importance of knowing how to be silent, when we talk too much about what we want, about our dreams, our projects, many times we are not simply sharing a dream or a project, sometimes we are actually seeking approval of our dream and our project.

And that reflects a great lack of self-esteem, a great lack of self-love, which sometimes we do not have and that is okay, because we are in the process of building it, many times we say something not only to share our happiness and our joy but also to seek approval, and there is the difference, it is as if I say "Look mom, I bought a new computer" or "Look love, I bought this new computer" and there I am simply sharing my joy saying "Look, I love this computer" it was the computer I wanted and that's it.

But if I say “Look guys, I just bought this computer, look, what brand is it, and you wait for the reaction of others, there is a problem because you are waiting for the reaction to decide if you like it or not and there is a great lack of self-love, because if someone answers you “Wow, it is from this brand, it is great, it is beautiful.” with something that you chose it should not depend on the opinion of others.

I cannot depend, I cannot delegate my security to someone else's opinion, because it is something that I should already feel good about, it is something that I should already feel safe about, I bought the computer, I bought the clothes, I should like it and that's it, it's okay to share our joy, but if I'm doing it just to seek security I'm putting something that should be mine in the hands of others.

When we begin to understand the importance of knowing when to speak and when to be silent, our emotions and our fears stabilize, I talk a lot about expressing what we feel because talking about our feelings is liberating, but it has to have an important internal function, it should not be something for others and it is not only about self-love and security, you agree with me that it is about protecting your energy, right!

When we share too much we are opening the door to opinions, to doubts, to negative energies or external energies that can interfere with our process, for example, if you are building your dream, a dream, your energy must be concentrated on your dream, on your vision in making that dream a reality, if you start talking too much you will receive negative comments and without realizing it you can begin to doubt even your dreams, mentally and emotionally you lose momentum.

So keeping silent is not only for emotional security, but also to maintain focus and high vibration; When we say “friend, I got a new job”, “friend, I'm going to travel to that place” what is the real function of that conversation, if you simply want to share your happiness, that's perfect, you're not going to depend on the other's opinion, you're just telling them something, but if, on the contrary, deep down you feel that you're saying that, because you want the other to validate you, there is a lack of self-love, because you need the other to give you security that you yourself don't have.

That is great wisdom, learning when to speak and when to be silent, learning to keep certain things to yourself, learning that happiness comes from within and that it is not always necessary to share everything to feel joy and it does not mean that you cannot speak, but that you should not depend so much on seeing the happiness of others in your project to feel happy with your own project.

You will wonder why we seek validation from others, because validation has a very subtle shadow which is the ego, many times our ego makes us believe that we need external approval for something to have value, for example, if you do something and no one praises it, no one sees it, no one comments on it, it still has value for you, if the answer is no, then you do it not because you love it, but because you want recognition.

But what would happen if you believed so much in your project, so much in your dream, in your goal that you didn't need anyone else to validate it, leave your answer in the comments, what do you think about all of this, Thank you.