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A lot of times parents find themselves in a dilemma on what method is best to correct their kids.
They are caught between using corporal punishment or verbal communication.
Though research has proven that verbal communication works magic, the case is different in most African homes; corporal punishment is seen as the best way to correct a child.
And the use of the popular adage “spare the rod and spoil the child." In other words, they need to discipline the child so that he or she will not get spoiled.
Growing up as the first child in an African home, I received a lot of beatings from my parents. My dad even had a special time he usually flogs, while men sleep and you have forgotten about your offense, deep into sleep, then you get that whiplash on your body.
In all of this, they never flogged me carelessly that injured me or left a mark on my body. And because I never liked flogging as a punishment or a means of correcting a child, I promised myself that when I have my own kids, I will flog them.
Hahaha! Now that I am a mom, I can't keep such promises. The reason being that kids of these days are just too different and wonderful. There are times that when I am talking to my daughter, she will keep staring at me until I pick up a cane.
I mostly don't flog her with it, but I usually use it to threaten her.
I have noticed that most kids that get beaten often are usually scared; the beating has sp much to instill fears in them, which makes some of these kids timid while others become rebellious. To me, the aim of the correction in the first place has been defeated.
Some kids become aggressive and disrespectful and start treating other people the way they were treated.
I came across a video where they show the two different ways parents should discipline and correct their kids.
The first kid was aggressive towards another kid, and the second child was very nice and treated the other kid with love and respect. The video was showing how their behaviors can model the way their kids live because children learn by observing.
There are days I use verbal communication. I talk to her about what she did wrong, but what I do often are words of affirmation, and this has worked wonders.
I think every parent should do what works for them. The most important thing is to correct and discipline the child with love.
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