It is common knowledge that fathers don't usually get along with their daughters' boyfriends at first. Many have wondered why it is that way. Well, I'll approach this from the boyfriend's perspective and the dad's perspective.
From the boyfriend perspective, fathers can be a lot to handle. Back when I was younger, there was this girl who lived in my vicinity. She liked me, and I did too. We exchanged contacts and began talking. She was a complete daddy's girl. She was so close to her father. She was his baby girl. He literally provided everything she needed. He treated her like an egg.
As we got talking, the girl and I got really close. Eventually, we started something. I won't really call it a relationship. Perhaps it was something that looked like a relationship, whatever it was😂.
She began ditching plans with her dad because of me. I guess I was taking all of her attention. Of course, her father noticed what was going on. She told me that her father asked her who it was that was taking all of her attention. When she told him it was me (she just couldn't lie to her father), he was like:
"Oh, so it's because of that boy that you've forgotten I exist. He seems like a bad boy. He'll only break your heart".
I laughed when I was told this. He didn't even know me. How did he conclude I was a bad boy? He was able to convince his daughter to end whatever she had with me. It was obvious he didn't want to drag his daughter's attention with me. Perhaps he got jealous, or maybe overprotective. Well, I was really young back then, and I look back at that moment and laugh.
Now, let me go to the perspective of a father. Although I'm not a father yet (which I don't intend to be any time soon), I would be protective of my daughters. I've always hoped to have daughters in the future. They would be the center of my world, along with their mom. I know I will over pamper them and I don't care. They deserve it just by being my daughters.
Now, if some boy says he wants to come into my daughter's life, and compete with me for my daughter's attention, he won't have it easy. Of course, I'll be skeptical about the guy. What's really his intention? Will he hurt my daughter? These things will be on my mind as a father.
Eventually, I'll come around and accept the guy, because I know my daughter won't remain single forever, but I'll make sure that the guy is worth it. As humans, we tend to protect the people we love in every way we can. That's just human nature.
So as you can see, this father and boyfriend feud is something that won't end anytime soon.