Hello, everyone.
Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. Whenever I have a conversation with my parents, I am indeed excited about how they talk about me and how happy they are for how I am striving to ensure that I make them proud. Last week I told my dad that I would be wrapping up my internship program in the next few weeks, and he was super happy, and in his words, "That means my son will be graduating soon." For me, seeing my parents happy is like a priority, and I strive so well to do that, though it is not an easy thing to do, but I give it my best shot.
The fact that I was not born with a silver spoon helped put me on the track that I am today. I learned a lot about life at quite a young age, and I strived to make a difference or support my family in any way I could. My parents did not have it all, but they did make sure that we did not lack, even if it meant them going broke. They don't really mind giving my siblings and i their last penny, and in most cases, when we need something, and they don't have to give always breaks them. Nothing beats the feeling that comes with knowing the only reason your parents won't come through for you is because they don't have; as long as they have, they got you covered.
Not coming from a rich or wealthy family did teach me lessons; I would say it put me face to face with reality, and it was not an easy experience. Not coming from a rich family makes you realize that indeed life is not a bed of roses; you have to get up and get to work as nobody is coming to save you. Not coming from a wealthy family makes you go through seven hells for things that can actually be gotten easily and without even stressing much. Knowing where you come from, you don't really need a person to remind you that you need to get to work, as anything your parents don't do for you and you cannot do for yourself, then automatically those things are left unattended to.
At some point when life puts you face to face with reality, you start wishing you were born with a silver spoon and that you come from a rich family and asking yourself questions like why are you not from a rich home but all the challenges are what makes us who we are. They make us stronger and help us stay determined and focused, as many of us would not want the same thing for our kids in the near future. I will not really like my kids to have some experiences, though every experience comes with a lesson, but I believe my own story should be enough lesson for them.
Currently we are all coming of age and drawing close to the age where we actually have to start having kids and building our own family. Like I said earlier, I will not like my kids to pass through seven hells to get things done like I did. For me, I will make sure all the resources and things my kids need to become a better version of themselves are provided, but at the same time, they are constantly reminded that I will not always be there to make this possible, which is why they need to get up and work for themselves. I want a good life for my kids, but not the type that will make them extremely comfortable or completely dependent. Here in school, I see kids who are completely dependent on their parents, but for me, I feel it is not a good way to raise a kid as no one knows what tomorrow brings.
I would raise my kids with all the love that they need, make provisions for them and clear the path for them when necessary and at same time make sure that my kids are the type that when I am removed from the equation can still find a way to survive. I won't over pamper my kids, I see some parents who won't allow their kids do a single thing on their own, I won't be that type of parent. I will give my kids all the love they need at same time make sure they are not spoilt.