It makes us human. Some people confuse kindness with eternity. They believe that because someone is good, patient and always there, they will never get tired. But you know what? Even the noblest person gets fed up.
It's not about not getting our hearts broken, it's about when they do we learn the lesson.
The fairy tale does not exist.
No one has infinite endurance, and when someone good leaves, he does so without scandals, but he leaves an impossible void to fill. It's funny how generosity is sometimes abused. "Ah, he doesn't complain, then I can keep asking him for favors", "He always forgives me, for sure he will this time too".
The responsibility and commitment of a couple is at all levels, from fidelity, respect, economic and emotional responsibility. The couple, is not living on an illusion. We need to put our feet on the ground and plan. In my country they say: "Good wishes, do not get pregnant, that is to say: if there are no basic requirements it is only a couple prospect.
These are the decisions that separate boys from men; he always affirmed and lo.se from my own experience, a true man is the one who has the courage to honor and respect his wife, giving her a place and privileges.
Love as a couple will always be a challenge. There is no love without effort and without negotiation. We have to be flexible, negotiate and, many times, give in.
Many times the breakup happens because we enter the stage of conscious love that is the next to falling in love, where the wounds of childhood are mobilized that it is up to each of us to heal, already in the absence of the other.
It's hard for us to speak clearly. It is difficult for us to let go of pride and say what we feel bluntly. Instead of saying "it hurts me," we throw hints. Instead of saying, "I miss you," we wait for each other to notice. And so, between silences and misunderstandings, we let things break that could have been saved with an honest conversation, which even if it is uncomfortable is worth it.
In these years I have realized that jealous people get into their delusions and there is nothing to get them out of their madness. I am sorry for anyone who has had to live with a man or woman with celiac disease.
They really imagine infidelities where there are none and act according to their imagination.
In the end we are the owners of our biography, therefore, each of us, writes his own story and writes it, in his own way, according to our experiences it is completely valid to feel sad and allow ourselves to be broken for a moment.
We don't always have to be the smiling person that others expect. It's okay to need distance, keep quiet and let the heart shed its tears until you find calm.
Janitze 🌹
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