Growing up and on several occasions I always hear people discussing about love, feelings and relationships and the wahala that also comes with them. As for me who is a single Guy and with no relationship experience yet except probably the only one crush I have back then in secondary school but she happens not to even notice me at all. I was just thinking, before any man daughter comes to my life, I need to start gathering knowledge and experience about love. So I decided to pick this particular book from my friend which is "The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman"
Even though I am not the book lover as some people but I must say this book hit me differently as it looks like Chapman has the secrets or cheat code to unlock love that last. If probably you have anyone close to you that is having issues in their relationship or probably in marriage and you feel there is no love in that marriage, this particular book I am about to discuss today is for you.
Breaking the book down, while I was reading the book, I discovered that the book majorly talks about one understanding the way people give and receive love. I will call Gary Chapman the relationship guru as he was able to establish five solid ways that you can express love to your partner and not only that, but also if you are able to understand your partner's love language, then your relationship will not have issues as regards showing of love.
Alright what are the five love languages talked about in that book? The first one is Words Of Affirmation. This particular love language is for people who grew up adoring compliment and love sweet words. While reading the book, I learnt that simple words like "You look so amazing", "You look beautiful", "You are intelligent " can really go a long way to boost your partner love tank most especially when your partner love language is words of affirmation.
The second love language is Acts of service. There are some people who actually grew up understanding the popular phrase that action speak louder than voice. People like that, the acts of service as love language will definitely work for them. If you are a Nigerian and you have a mother who woke up early in the morning to prepare food, you will understand much more what I am saying.
The third love language is Receiving gift. When I was reading this book. I always pray that my partner love language will not be receiving gifts because Omo, I might not be able to afford her love language. In fact every Nigerian will know this one very well as from the valentine to the birthday ceremony. Actually one of the vital point chapman was able to establish in his book is the dcaf that not every time the gifts will be about cost. It is the thought behind that gift that really matters.
The fourth love language and trust me I really love this one personally because it is part of my own love language and that is quality time. This love language is for partners who want you to be around not only physically but in every aspect like emotionally and mentally. Instead of always complaining that you are busy, you create quality time to spend with your partner. As a man, you might be carried away by work but most of the time, what your babes want is not necessarily your gifts but the time you spend around her.
The last love language which you will agree with me has been largely abused in our society nowadays is the physical touch. But let me just established here, the physical touch Gary Chapman was talking about here is not for the naughty act we are thinking o. It means showing love either through holding each other hands, by hugs or even a peck at the cheek. If your partner's love language is a physical touch, my brother, do not be stung with your hugs.
As a Nigerian, what I learnt that till today is lives with me is the fact that we have really misinterpreted love in our present culture. In a typical society, we just believe that if you are able to provide for your partner or family financial needs, it means you are showing love. Even though it is part but it is not limited to it actually. Sometimes what your partner want is just expression of love through acts of affirmation. Sometimes it can be through quality time as not all expression of love is limited to giving of gifts as many of us always think. I was really able to learn that from the book and that struck my heart.
Whether you are already married, in a relationship or single like me, this book is definitely for you as it's kind of preparing you for in advance. One of the things I'm the book has taught me is to understand how to give and receive love to my fellow partner and I believe many of us must learn that. As I conclude, I will say the book The 5 Love Languages** by Gary Chapman is really a must book that everyone should read whether you are single or already in a relationship.
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