At some point, I realized that relationships should be intentional and with maturity. I defined my relationships before choosing them. The first thing I watch out for is positive energy, not relationships eroded with negativity. I believe relationships should be a two-way approach, fostering unity and understanding rather than being one-sided.
How I Apply Minimalism in Relationships
Minimalism in my relationships means prioritizing quality over quantity. My principle is simple: having just one loyal and meaningful friend is better than ten who do not truly connect with me. One key factor I consider is a willingness to grow. Nobody knows it all, but I love it when I can learn from you and you from me. Growth is essential, but stagnancy is not.
I remember a friend from years back; our relationship felt one-sided. I was always making the effort, yet it never felt reciprocated. I had to think and redefine such a relationship, and thankfully, we separated even without fighting it. She realized my lifestyle was so simple compared to hers, and she left for good.
Another time, I had a friend who confidently stated that once she finished school, she would never have any business reading books again, that she was done. That was a turning point for me. I knew that someone unwilling to grow mentally could not be the kind of friend I wanted to move with. Of course, if you're close to me, I will try to positively influence you, but when it's clear that someone has made up their mind against progress, I don't force it.
Forgiveness is another way I apply minimalism. I believe in giving room for change because no one is perfect. If you recognize your mistakes and are eager to correct them, I forgive and forget. I also expect the same from my friends, no hoarding grudges, no silent resentment. However, when I meet someone who is bent on not forgiving, despite my efforts to help them see it from a new perspective, I cut off. My life is simple, and peace has always been my mantra. So, why hold onto hate when you can forgive?
Also, what are friendships or relationships if we can't make time to talk and be present for each other? When it's time to talk, I give my undivided attention. I want to be there for you, celebrate with you, and encourage you. That's what connection means to me.
How This Helps Me
Practising minimalism in relationships has helped me focus on deeper and more meaningful connections — the ones that truly matter. It saves me from unnecessary emotional baggage and allows me to pour into relationships that bring value, growth, and peace.
A perfect example is a conversation I once had with a friend about savings. She was hesitant, giving flimsy excuses about not earning enough, yet she had no problem spending on unnecessary items. I explained that everyone can save regardless of their income, but she wasn't willing to listen. That's the kind of relationship I do not want — one where there's no openness to learning or growth, especially in areas that could be beneficial.
What Inspires This Action?
My desire for a simple and peaceful life drives my approach to relationships. I don't raise my expectations too high, but I ensure that everyone in my circle is looking forward to growth and is willing to explore and learn. Life is already complicated, relationships shouldn't be.
Minimalism in relationships isn't about isolation, it's about choosing quality over quantity, having meaningful connections, and peace over unnecessary drama.
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