Fear Of The Unknown.
Hello friends of hive. Hope we are still with the euphoria of the festive season and gradually moving into the reality of the new year🎆🎉.
This very first topic for this week by #hivelearners got me thinking 💭 of why should many of us be caught up in a toxic relationships. It could be with a family relative, a partner of a serious relationship, husband and wife who has been together for years and even the casual friendship we see every where.
But one thing is for sure, we must always have a reason to stick in a relationship even in those that if full of toxic and abusive because of the circumstances we find ourselves at that point which most times make us blind and see no reason to leave. The worst being those relationships that involves being abused.
The fear of the unknown is one point I see with people who blindly stick to a toxic relationship, because of how they may not want to leave their comfort zone to challenge life and move on, but instead they keep hoping for change from the person they are attached to.
One thing that comes to my mind when I think of toxic and abusive relationships are anxiety, fear, feelings of bad emotions, lack of focus and bad energy, And honestly speaking, many women and men too go through this kinds of relationships, finding it very difficult to pull out due how they feel they can’t stand on there own or face their situations alone.
I was once in a relationship of this kind during my teenage years and then was working 9:00 to 5:00. And because I was earning money 💰 don’t like to ask my boyfriend for money since I can buy myself what ever I desire. And once in a while will also support him anytime he wants some support. And I was doing all this just to keep the relationship going. But as time went buy I started noticing some attitude of how he will want to capitalize on not spending money when necessary, like when we go grocery or shop together. These kinds of behavior may start leading to toxic, like emotional feelings .
All I did was just keep watching and taking note. And because we are full grown adults, I quickly confronted him. He then apologized, saying he wants to save up to change his car. But that is not a concrete excuse I said to him. Things like these can lead to others and that is why we as individuals should always watch out to avoid being exploited. You will not want to spend your money but want me to spend mine.
Relationships are built on trust and if one is not working out, we should not make ourselves slaves in it. Its always advisable that we look towards what concerns our mental health because toxic relationships can lead to depression if we do not know how to fight the fear and anxiety of the unknown. Its to our best interest to know when to stop covering up for a toxic relationships or when to leave because the future will always hold something greater if we are optimistic in life.
However, the worst of toxic relationships are those we are financially dependent on those who wants to use us. And those who are out to control us, making us feel less important. And because I had my voice, my boyfriend could not see how to control me because I had a girlfriend who was going through a toxic relationship and abuse because she loves the guy. But eventually, she made up her mind to leave him and travelled 🧳 out immediately.
In conclusion, be it friendship of boy girl relationship, husband and wife, family relations or casual relationship, it’s important we see things the way they. Staying in a manipulative relationships are the worst because you will never stand up for yourself. And having your voice in a relationship matters a lot.
This is my response to the #hiveleaners featured content for week 147, edition 01, tagged “EVEN WHEN TOXIC”.
Images are mine.