No masks
I tell you, she has a controlling husband who corrects all kinds of behaviors that she emits, when she visits the family he is aware of everything she says and does not mind calling her attention in front of them, she says that it is exactly in those moments that she puts on her mask, is silent and ends up being the laughing stock of everyone, when she gets home, she keeps the mask of the wife who should not refute absolutely nothing of what her husband says or does... but internally, she dies slowly.
In this sense, she seeks help hidden from her partner because this situation is already unbearable, it has affected her sex life to such a degree that she seems to be a sex slave, she controls meal times, child care and every day she must give her cell phone to her husband when he comes home from work to verify with whom she has communicated and what she has written.
Thank God she was brave enough to seek help, so we have to start working on strengthening her self-awareness and self-esteem to recover her hijacked personality. The purpose is for her to put her thoughts in order through therapeutic psychoeducation and some identity awareness techniques or strategies.
In this context, we spend our lives visiting places, stores, markets, walking, exercising, shopping, going on vacation without noticing all those people around us who have such well-made masks that you do not detect them, perhaps, they laugh at your jokes, respond to a greeting, seem so healthy and successful but in reality they are asking for help. Wow... this situation happens more often than you think.
This reflection is oriented to detect all those situations that apparently seem like love and protection when deep down it is Emotional Blackmail to control you. From there I leave you a few signs that serve as an immediate warning to avoid the kidnapping of your personality.
-This person takes control in your decisions limiting your freedom and believe me they will convince you that it is in the name of love.
He will do his best to question your every thought by criticizing your views and then suggesting his proposals until he manages to convince you that it is the most reasonable option.
It will foster distrust in your own judgment, domestic violence that most of the time will have drastic end, then he will ask for forgiveness saying, you make me angry , I love you, forgive me, it will never happen again, a month later you will be victimized again.
There are many more tips, however, to conclude my reflection I will tell you that this behavior will be very subtle and progressive for this reason many women say: He is not the man I fell in love with however, I have to let them know: That was always his true personality, he was just waiting for the right time.