Many people are facing these challenges and they are finding it difficult to believe that they are in bondage, it is never easy for so many people to opt-out or say no to their partners or family members who are maltreating them, most people going through toxic relationship believes in endurance or the person is going to change one day.
I once lived in a compound when I was in school and I happened to witness something of this nature, this lady was so pretty and she had a boyfriend that year, both of them were staying together but this lady was the one paying for the house rent, buying foodstuff and practically doing everything in that apartment, this guy is living with her with no form of shame, though I am less concern about their relationship.
This lady was a student too, she still depended on her parents for survival and she added another mouth to feed, this guy in question is always at home, not a student but only plays the role of a boyfriend, with no work or anything doing to keep him busy, this guy was a devil in form of a human, he always maltreats this lady, beat her blue- black, leaving marks on her body.
This has been going on for years since I met them in the house everyone in the apartment always complains about the guy's behavior and the lady always covers up for him, she always claims that she loves the guy and he has been there for her since they met, she was in fear of being lonely and insecure.
One fateful day, I was the only one in the compound because I wasn't having any lectures that day, I started hearing sounds of punch but since I wasn't called I continued with what I was doing, after some minutes of shouting and it was getting tougher, I then stepped out to intervene, I separated them and everyone was at peace.
After a month, the lady was sick, I mean extremely sick, she had an illness inform of asthmatic but not really that, this sickness is worse than asthma, whenever she is going through this sickness she is always in pain and agony, but this guy is the only one who always takes care of her, he will stand by her and pat her back until she recovers, this was why the lady couldn't fight for her freedom.
After she recovers she tells me the reasons why she can never leave the guy even if she is on the verge of dying, she said other guys always run from her anytime this dangerous sickness holds her down, she also said that the guy in question was the only one stood by her and takes care of her whenever this sickness shows up, what I noticed in her was that she has committed her life in the hand of the guy so anything the guy do to her she is less concern about it.
Despite going through a tough time at the hands of a guy who enjoys beating you and saying bad things to you and your family, she always feels happy and proud of it, in this scenario there is no amount of preaching I can preach to change her mind against the guy because she is intensively in love with him and this can cause enmity between us.
I am always careful when it comes to relationships, I do not poke my nose in people's business, some ladies or people can be so childish whenever you advise them against their partners, but in my opinion I would say love shouldn't hurt, learn how to say NO or pull out from a toxic relationship.
This is my response to today's episode of hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w147e1 which the topic is tagged EVEN WHEN TOXIC
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