Hello beautiful people. This is very important and you should pay attention as you read, before you entered into relationships, you must have had friends, male and female friends, the fact that you are now in a relationship doesn't mean you will cut them off.
You should begin to develop this understanding if you haven't that there is nothing wrong in having, nurturing and preserving your platonic friendships with both genders when you go into a new romantic relationship.
To be clear, platonic friendships or relationships are those with which you have a bond but it is not sexual or romantic. It is basically devoid of such activities and it is about mutual support, creating a circle of friends who are there for you and for having a community you belong to.
However, because many people do not know when or where to draw the line. They do not know that when a platonic friend begins to wish for or show interest in more than just mere friendship while they are in a relationship, it is a problem waiting to happen.
If you want to maintain a beautiful relationship with people around you, with friends and also create an atmosphere of mutual respect and a bond, then you must learn to draw the line, you must learn to make sure your partner can trust you when you are with someone else hanging out, and that you will not hurt their feelings and okay them. You must learn to speak clearly, be firm and set strong boundaries between you and your platonic friends at the inception of your friendship.
Set these boundaries in order to limit what you do with them and what you do with your partner. Let's assume you have a friend of the opposite sex who you run to when you are down and they can be a shoulder to lean on, courtesy demand that you transfer that activity to your partner the moment to enter into a relationship. Your partner should be your emotional shock absorber, sometimes it is easy to catch feelings when you are into a relationship and still treating someone else like they are your date. Before you know it, something you didn't plan for will happen and it will be too late to set boundaries then.
Learn to clearly inform your platonic friends that you have entered or started a relationship and also make it clear that you are off limits in some areas and everyone should respect you.
The key to doing this is transparency, with your friends, with your partners and most especially with the activities you engage in. You should be mindful of conversations that are beyond friendship limits and when you don't monitor it, it can go into other areas.
Learn not to be too available especially with friends of the opposite sex, be careful with what you share and also respect their feelings. If you can adhere to this, you will have a smooth and stressfree relationship, your partner will have no reason to doubt or mistrust you.
If you really love your partner, and you want your relationship to work and last, you should know that you can't mess up when it comes to boundaries, it is not done. If you have a problem with setting boundaries, and your partner finds out, know that you are dealing with a serious problem and cheating will not be far fetched as a potential result. It will be that you are not contented with what you have and you seek more elsewhere.
