Sometimes it is better to move quietly from some places without making any sound. It would be painful but not harmful.
I have always been a very reserved person, not so expressive, I need a lot of time to process my emotions. I am a very stubborn girl, no work can be forced from me. But I am a beggar of love, so I can do all the work with love.
But in the past few days I have understood that people always want to have someone under them. It always seemed to me that man should be free, if she or he loses his or her individuality in a relationship, then the relationship becomes a bird stuck in a cage and then he has to lose his or her free sky.
I think in every relationship there should be a room of space where other person could spend time they need for their own self. This relationship could anything like a relationship between husband- wife , parents- children, siblings, boyfriend- girlfriend or friendship . It shouldn't be like that you are in a relationship & you got the right or legal access to know 24/7 schedule of the other person life . After a age people try to find peace & calmness . What's in your phone? Taking the passwords , What work you should do or this & that .... I don't understand that . I mean it could be a mutual discussion about everything but nobody got the right to take decision about every matter of other person's life. I think no self dependent person would tolerate these silly things. Maybe some can tolerate these for the sake of love for a while but not for the lifetime.
In my thoughts if you are having so much things in a bad way take time , give your partner their own space . Burn all the bad chapter or try with a new way by correcting the mistakes. But give them a space . It's mandatory. By pushing too much sometimes bring nothing but take everything. " I can't do it . I can't...I want to ....." Don't do these. The matter arises here is that it's not you, it's no me .... it's the matter of "us". Sometimes taking a backseat is a good sign.