Hello friends of this community, you have not experienced in the meeting or in a conversation that people do not listen to you, I know exactly how it feels to fight for your space, try to express your ideas and make others pay more attention to you and even more respect you, sometimes what we want is for them to look at us with admiration and want to know what we have to share with the world and value our opinions.
You always have to be objective and practical, this in a conversation between friends, in a more informal conversation sometimes it is not easy, nor practical, but with practice, especially in professional situations, you can incorporate this into your daily life, also start training yourself to also moderate your language a little, you do not need to have an immediate response at all times.
If someone asks you something, do not answer without thinking, this happens a lot, especially in family relationships, with friends, with your partner, when emotions are on the surface we tend to externalize quickly and without thinking we say things that we later regret, so to speak in a more rational way it is important that you think, that you calm down a little, that you give reasons, if you do not have the answer immediately, nothing happens.
Take some time to think, there is nothing wrong with saying “I need to think about it a little” or “Let me think about it and then I will tell you”, and this will not only help you communicate better, but will also make others respect you more for your Clarity and your objectivity.
Avoid the anxiety of talking too much, you don't need to overwhelm yourself, you don't need to have the desperation to talk too much and mainly to interrupt people, you have so much anxiety and ideas bubble up that you can't organize and formulate the sentences better before expressing them, so much anxiety to speak, to release your tongue that you interrupt others, and that is extremely unpleasant, in addition to not interrupting others, something that is very annoying is when you don't have active listening in the conversation.
Be an attentive person who genuinely listens to others, stop taking everything to a personal level and always wanting to talk about yourself, putting yourself as the protagonist of the conversation all the time; When someone tells you their story, their problems, their feelings, don't immediately respond like "Oh me too", "Oh well me...", "mine...", "me..." and you continue talking about yourself, the person is talking to you about something, their feeling, the person is exposing their feelings to you and you have already felt offended because you always put yourself first in the conversation, that doesn't work like that.
A conversation is an exchange between two or more people, even when you talk to yourself you need that exchange, that moment of pause to listen to yourself, if you don't listen to yourself, you will only feel overwhelmed with your thoughts because you can neither listen to yourself nor pay attention to your feelings, so the same thing happens when you are with another person.
Get out of that perspective a bit, out of that bubble and listen looking into the eyes, show empathy for what the other person is telling you, don't be that anxious person at the table who is looking around all the time or even worse looking at their mobile phone while someone is telling them something, it is very uncomfortable for the other person who simply seeks your attention, wants you to listen to them and simply feels ignored, be more empathetic and listen to others.
