Knowing me, understanding me and accepting me is fundamental. Having enough self-esteem so that the judgment of others does not fuck with me, is final. And stop fucking around!!! ... Only stay with those who do love you and accept you as you are.
Love does not appear out of nowhere, it is not something that simply is. It is a place that is reached with time, patience and care.
It is built in the little things: in the words I choose, in how I show myself to others being vulnerable, in how I stay present, even when things get complicated.
You also learn in love. And walking that path together, that emotional state also turns us upside down.
This I'm writing about applies to all relationships: if things don't work, we're suffering and we don't see a way out anymore, we have to get out of there, but running 💨
From my relationships I learned that at the first lie I have to leave, that the person who breaks you can't be the same one who fixes you and that's one's responsibility.
That I should not beg for them to stay with me, that the limits are to be respected and once the line is crossed there is no turning back.
No one changes, it is taken or left.
You don't walk away because you want to, you walk away because they ignore you, they don't give you your place, they judge you, they hurt you, they reject you. One ends up with alienating these types of people, because despite having tried everything, nothing has changed.
To realize that...
... For this reason, I have learned not to settle for little when I give a lot, and that time heals nothing, what heals is what I do with time, my quality time like living in peace, tranquility, calm. Therefore, I do not allow anyone to make me doubt my value, nor what I deserve.
Sometimes it's about dialogue and re-dialogue, to review ourselves, to change, to exercise empathy and tolerance, it's also about being hurt, or maybe for that reason our life stops for a moment, or to honor, and maybe to mobilize and exercise our best resources before letting go and letting go.
It is a mutual work, a constant effort.
At the beginning of January 2025, I want to exhaust all my resources to love.
Bonds that are being formed and many times we ignore or do not continue to cultivate them because the routine of everyday life wraps us up. What is clear to me is that if there is love, our story can be reinvented to continue.
On the cover a kind photo from my memories, on a trip to Greece a long time ago, it was a journey towards the exquisite of its gastronomy with the best wine.
Janitze 🦋
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Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Translation with |DeepL