Parents are their children's role model, because they are their caretaker, and children are bound to follow after our footsteps, every father is a king to their children while every mother is an angel sent from heaven to their children and they together have the capability to influence their children negatively and positively, and through their actions or reactions to things, with that they can either create a memorable or beautiful life, or create a ugly or painful life of them.
As children grow, they see their parents and learn from them, School and friends are just the second source of learning, but the very first and the most important source of the learning process and shaping the children's mind and mentality is the duty of the parents. Parents are the actual and the first foremost family for every child. Children understand the true definitions of unity, team work and emotional love when it is practice by their parents, hence it is essential that parents understand the true importance of living in unity and understanding, because their emotional detachment can have a negative effect on their children's mind, It’s understandable that at certain points every parent goes through some kind of arguments or can be angry to each other, but that should be settled amicably without the children's knowledge, it's acceptable that children are great observers, but a peaceable way should be followed in settling those argument without the children discovering anything.
Children see their parents as their king and queen and they want and believe that everything to be perfect, they find themselves secured under their parents love and support, it's also important that parents constant argument or fight can create a huge negative impact on their children, hence they should be their friend and confidants, they should always try to understand, as well as have an effective flow of communication with them.
Most of the time parents feel that they're giving all the love, care and support their children desire, but they fail to understand that their fight and argument can send a conflicting message to their children, that they are not united and that they can’t handle their relationship, hence it’s every parents responsibility to understand their children mentality and when they see anything wrong and weird in their behavior then talk to them and ask them the reason behind their silence and negative behavior.
Some negative effects on children through a parent's constant fight and argument:
- A Fearful Heart is Developed Towards Relationship:
A child who sees their parents constantly fighting, such a child develops a heart of fear towards relationship, they become introvert, they most times find it difficult to connect with other people, it also builds distrust in their hearts, because to a child the first reason to trust the world was parents and when that trust is broken by their parents, it becomes very stressful and difficult for them to build a trusting relationship with others. - They will lose their Joy, Happiness and Hope:
Childhood is a stage where children get affected negatively by their parents mistakes if not managed properly, they tend to lose their Joy, Happiness, and peace of mind. they lose faith and become depressed and can also become self-injurious. Every child expects love and support from their parents, and when a child doesn’t see that love and support in their homes they become lonely and sad, their love and emotions vanish and they become rude, and selfish to everyone around them. - They Become Aggressive.
Parents fight can affect children negatively, that the outcome the will display is aggressiveness, and also see negativity in things. It also builds insecurities in them, leading to jealousy, stealing, indulging in hard drugs etc. They will not be able to see the positivity of things around tgem, because anger and anxiety has taken a greater part of their lives, which will be veru difficult to be erased. - It often leads to poor Academic performance
When a child faces a disorganized home, they lose their concentration and which also builds up low self esteem due to stress and anxiety which is as a result of the misunderstanding between their parents. Most of the time parents are unaware of the damages the cause in the life of their children due to flight, because peaceful homes make a child concentrate leading to excellent academic performance, but unpeaceful homes always lead to poor academic performance, and that will steal the child's happiness and positivity. The negative environment at home can destroy a child’s happiness capability and potential, hence parents should always handle their child's happiness and mentality properly because children are very sensitive and their heart is fragile hence handle they should be cared for and love.
The foundation we lay in bringing up our children is a determining factor of your child's success or failure.
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