Greetings great people of Hive and the amazing community of @ladiesofhive Thank you for giving us this opportunity to voice out our minds as ladies. I really like the questions as it is relatable in our daily lives. This will be my first publication in this community,and I am going with the second prompt.
As much as giving my child the opportunity to grow in the arms of his entire family is important, I don't feel staying in a relationship or perhaps a family that does not know my value is the best option me. Let's take a peep at what the prompt says:
Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who was incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you. Would you rather endure their maltreatment or walk out of your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?
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You know, this prompt reminds me of my younger sister who got pregnant for her boyfriend, the guy in question was kind and responsible enough to take his responsibility, and to be sincere with you, I almost advised my sister to take him to the village for a proper marriage until the guy's parents came in. At first the mother was pretending to like my sister but deep down she never wanted her as her daughter in-law, in fact the whole family were against my sister which made her boyfriend to be indecisive. As a young guy, he was confused whether to stand with his parents or with his pregnant girlfriend my sister, and this led my sister to park out of his house saying he wasn't man enough.
To be honest, it is not easy staying in a family where you are not welcomed or you are not even being recognised. So my answer to the above questions is "If my partner can't or won't even stand for me when my in-laws, his family are being rude then It's better to walk away. Though in as much as walking away is not the only option, I might have to discuss with my partner to know his reasons why he is not always backing me up, you know we women, we walk with our feelings, our instincts precisely😅 so if I feel his reasons are genuine and it's something worth waiting and enduring then I will wait but if his reasons are not genuine then my walking away is 100% sure.
Why? Here is my why
You know one thing that makes children to become aggressive and rude? Don't worry, I will tell you. It's growing up in a toxic environment and that's the last thing I wouldn't want my child to experienced. As a mother, for the sake of my child I will have to guide his mental health and growth as well. Of course I am not leaving my sanity out of this, staying back in such a relationship is very unhealthy for me as a mother because I really need to stay healthy and strong for child. Lastly, sometimes, walking away might be the only message that would wake my man up, and make him realise how he has messed up.
Though, it is not easy for a lady to raise her child alone and it is not even good for a child to grow without a fatherly love but sincerely if the man can't man up then it's better the woman takes up the responsibility to protect both herself and her child.
This is my response to the prompt, ladies of the Hive community.
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