There’s were time in my life when I felt less worthy only because I didn’t have many friends. I couldn’t socialize as I wanted. One time I just felt hurt when my friends got closer to their other friends, which made me question myself even more... "Am I not worthy enough to be a friend? Am I a bad person to talk to or share stories with?”
Some friendships made me turn into someone that I didn’t want to be, others made me try so hard to be impressive just for the sake of it. This may not be related to the question “Do friendship really require a lot of effort to maintain?”, but when I finally met some people who could make me feel appreciated even when I felt like the stupidest human being, it really got me. Some friendships will survive because it meant to. Sometimes it's not about am I a good or bad person, but more about am I really comfortable showing them the good and bad sides of me as a person?
Maybe people have their own definition of a good friend, but sometimes the universe just directs us to find one. and before we know it, it's been years of a relationship that doesn't even feel like it's being maintained. Because it just flows, effortlessly.