Preggy (I mean pregnant), rude in-laws-to-be, incapable partner.
That's just the worst combo, isn't it? So what would you do if you were in such a situation? Would you stay and put up with everything or go the other way?
For some, that might be very challenging, and would take them some time to figure things out or think things over. Others could decide in a heartbeat, take it or leave it, kind of thing. I know a few who have been in that scenario and they didn't have the same decisions.
One, very close to me, chose to stay because she was pretty much in love and was also scared of what other people would say. So they got married and lived with her in-laws where she suffered silently, and even had a miscarriage on her second pregnancy before she realized the hell she walked into. One day, she mustered the courage and finally decided it was over. She left her husband just before their child turned 6 years old. Their marriage has not been annulled yet, but she's now happily living with her son in Canada.
Another was an old friend who was 4 months pregnant but chose to ditch her boyfriend when she felt unwelcome in his family circle. As expected, she was the talk of the town (the subject of people's gossip) but she lived through them with her head held high. She said a mistake wouldn't be corrected by another. She was right and I admired her courage then and now. She is still unmarried and teaches in one of the public schools in town.
So what about me? What would I do if in their shoes?
Answering this question at this age (and mentality), I'll walk out instantly. I would not want to spend a lifetime (not even a minute) in a place where my emotional, psychological, and general well-being is at stake. I'd rather be an unwed mother than live with people who take the joy and sanity out of my life.
I learned that if a pregnant woman is not happy, it greatly affects the overall health of her baby too. I would not wish that to happen, nor have my child grow up in an environment where there is no harmony and love. Besides, if the guy couldn't stand up for us or even for himself, I would not want to have anything to do with him further. I'd even be grateful to find out about it earlier than later.
Yes, it's easy to say things but doing them is another. It can be hard. There will be emotional turmoil, pain, and doubts, among other plethora of emotions, but I believe they are temporary compared to being hurt in one's lifetime and having regrets.
So I salute those women, young and old, who prioritize their state of mind and overall well-being by walking away from a toxic relationship and from people who don't see their value. Kudos to you all!
This, by the way, is my participation in the 173rd edition of the Ladies of Hive weekly prompts. Thank you, Jane, for your great questions :)
Photo Credits:
Woman walking away by RDNE Stock project 19022024/21:20ph Posted Using InLeo Alpha
Woman crying by Lisa Summer