Achievements can be obstacles

Every human is unique, and the differences in thoughts, characteristics, and personalities between two humans are natural. Even between siblings, there are many differences, although they share many common traits. So many times, parents also compare siblings.

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I am the elder son of my family, and since my childhood time, I have been quite obedient, and I was good at my studies. Again, my understanding of power was quite good since childhood, and with time I became better. Additionally, I had a calm mind, and I would not get angry easily. In a word, everyone knows me as a well-mannered person with brilliant results. I was always resistant when someone wanted to compare me with anyone. Fortunately, my parents didn't get so many opportunities to compare, as most of the things were related to study, and I was good at it, and there was nobody in my parents eyes to compare with me. Still, once they tried to compare me with a thing, and I gave them a reply in a polite way, and they stopped comparing me with anyone since then. In my eyes, I didn't have any significant achievements, but my academic achievements and good behavior were achievements for my parents, as almost everyone used to praise me. I think I became early mature compared to my peers, but everyone liked it most. Those things were good for me but I think I was creating obstacles for my little brother. Let me explain why.

My little brother has a face that is similar to mine. He also has some similarities with me, but the significant one is his stubbornness, like mine. When he is determined, he must go for it, and I also have the habit at the current time. In my case, stubbornness was my strength, as I could manage things well, and I hardly got into arguments with my parents or someone else. But for my little brother, it's his weakness at the current time. He can't use it in positive ways. I think he is not as mature as I was at his age. So his stubbornness made him rebellious in front of my parents and others. I could handle things with a calm mind, but it's not so easy for them, and I think it's also normal at his age. But the problem is my parents expect much better performance from him, as I am the benchmark in their eyes.

Let's talk about the study. I was good at it. I was abnormal for my age as I stopped playing outside at his age because of study pressure. He is not like me in that case. He is more talented than me in studies, but he is not ready to give so much effort in study. Still, his result is quite good in my eyes, but my parents are disappointed with his result. I know if he gives his 100%, he can suppress my achievements, and I am confident about it. My parents criticize him for mentioning my achievements, although it doesn't happen all the time. It seems my parents are searching me in him, and that's the problem. We are different, and our thoughts, understanding, and problem-solving skills are quite different. He also has many strengths, and I believe when he comes to my age, he will do better in the future. Unfortunately, it's hard to make it understood by my parents.

Many times I need to have an argument with my parents to defend him. I can't remember if I have had arguments with my parents for my reasons. I think my parents are not doing right with him. They must understand it. There are some things I can't tell my parents because it may hurt them. I also try to make my brother understand, but each time I can't defend him. I know he doesn't hate me, but I am also responsible for him for facing such a situation in his life. Sometimes, I feel his life could be better if I were not his brother or I were not so good in those things by which our parents and others see as good criteria.