Some friendships are hard to maintain

Family members are the most important people in our lives, and nothing can be more important compared to them, and that's why it's said that blood is thicker than water. No doubt, the relations between family members are unbeatable, but the bond between friends can't be underestimated. It's the second most powerful bond after the bond between family members.

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Friends are those people with whom we can share our thoughts without any hesitation, and they can keep our secrets safe. Family bonds are created by fate, and we can't control them, but when it comes to friendship, we are the controllers of it. Depending on our thoughts and common interests, we make friends most of the time, although it's not necessary to be true in every friendship because friends may have the opposite thoughts and different interests also.

Since childhood, we made many friends in life and but all our friends are not with us at the current moment because in our lives we lost many friends. We lost some friends unintentionally, and some were lost for some reason, which was intentional.

In my entire life, I made very few friends only because I am very careful when it comes to making friends. Maybe because of my nature, I had very few friends in my life, but all of them are the best for me. As far as I can remember, I broke one friendship internationally, and today I am talking about it.

When I was admitted to class 9 in a new school, the environment was quite new for me. Because of my good academic results, most of the students became friendly with me, but I never considered everyone as my friend, as I didn't feel the magical feeling of friendship bond for everyone. I made 3 friends in that school only, and one of them was "Alauddin" (fake name). Although his mentality was not the same, we had many common interests, and both were good at studying also.

He had an extrovert personality whereas I had the opposite but in my eyes, his only bad habit was his overconfidence although it had nothing to do. He used to compete with me in exams and many things, but I was undefeated until I finished my school life. Both of us were admitted into the same college. In college, we were in different sections, but it didn't make any impact on our friendship. We crossed another two years, and I finished my college life, but he failed in one subject. I secured my position in several top universities in my country and admitted to one, which was in my nearby place, when he was retaking his exams.

Communication has been reduced a little bit, but it was not an issue. In this digital world, we can connect with friends easily. After my admission to a top university, he started to pinch me whenever he got the opportunity. In my eyes, he was making fun of me, and I never thought that it was for jealousy. I ignored such a thing, and still, I don't know what made him change his perspective towards me.

After a certain time, while I was talking with him on the phone, I didn't feel the magic of the bond of friendship. Naturally, even if I talk with a friend after 1 year, I feel like I talked to him last week, and we have a lot of things to share, and we feel very close. But in the case of Alauddin, I felt that his words gave me a feeling that there was a huge distance between us. At first, I thought maybe it was my misunderstanding, but later when I talked with him in a group conversation with the 3 best friends at the school, they also noticed Alauddin's behavior towards me. They personally asked me later about it, and I said I don't know the reasons, but I was confirmed about the distance between Alauddin and me. Later I stopped contacting him frequently, and now I don't contact him as I feel it's good for both of us.

If someone asks me if I want to revive the friendship, I think I don't want to even if I don't have any harsh feelings against him. The reason is when the magic disappears from the friendship, there is no way to revive it. If I keep the friendship forcefully, it may last for a few more days, but it will end up badly based on my prediction. It's better not to increase the bitterness in his mind for me because at least he respects me, and I don't want to lose it.