Salutations to all of my fellows, the esteemed judge @jane1289 and special thanks to @ladiesofhive for arranging weekly contest to encourage women empowerment.
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This weeks prompt is quite different and interesting from other weeks i would like to be a part of this discussion so the prompt is
Premarital sex is very common among young people these days. What would happen if you became pregnant and met unpleasant in-laws with a spouse who is unable to support you or stand on his own? Which would you prefer—putting up with their abuse or ending the relationship and raising your child by yourself? Why
Discussing having children before marriage is akin to discussing a jigsaw puzzle with numerous pieces. While some believe it to be unacceptable, others claim it's acceptable. We'll look at why people have such diverse opinions on becoming parents before saying "I do". How societal norms, individual experiences, and external factors influence people's opinions toward having children before to marriage.
Premarital Baby
Because of their religious views and beliefs, some people think that having a child before marriage is improper. Instead, they think that having a child and having sex after marriage are acceptable. As is customary in our culture, women who have children before being married are not allowed to do so, and women are always held accountable for this, not men.
I'd want to include a few relevant examples. My distant cousin's story begins here when she gets married. She is an innocent, typical eastern girl who always does what her parents want. Her parents chose the boy she would marry. Despite being married, he hadn't yet moved out of her house. Because she wanted to finish her degree before moving into her husband's house, she went to university and studied diligently every day. After class and university one day, she was heading home when she unexpectedly ran across her childhood friend on the road. She brought him home with her. When her future husband unexpectedly arrived home at that very moment and saw her with another boy, he didn't even speak to her or ask why; instead, he simply left the house without saying anything. After he stopped talking to her for weeks or even months, she told her parents about his behavior, but she didn't tell them why is he doing all this. They called her in-laws. They asked about him and heard all about the girl with that boy. They said, "We thought we were giving our boy to kind and respectable family but we were wrong."
Generally speaking, it's best to state this because whenever anything vulnerable occurs, women are usually the first to be mentioned.
First and foremost, if I ever find myself in a scenario like this, I will make every effort to talk to my partner, win him over, and let him understand how important he is to me and our child. It's not easy to break up with someone and be a single mother, but if given the chance, I would gladly choose to do so in order to protect my child and myself from a poisonous environment. It's not just my opinion; nobody enjoys being with a partner who doesn't understand and support them. Having a dependable buddy along life's path is similar to having a supporting partner. It entails having a support system that is there for you throughout difficult times and who listens and understands you. A supportive spouse cheers you on, assists you in overcoming obstacles, and acknowledges your accomplishments. A sense of security and contentment in the relationship is fostered by the good and loving environment that this type of assistance produces. A supporting companion becomes a pillar of strength, helping one navigate through trying times and share happy events, making life's path more meaningful and satisfying. Every mother wants to provide her children the finest care possible, and I will follow suit because stress, worry, and despair are bad for both mom and baby.
Walk out on your relationship
There are a number of reasons to end this kind of relationship. The first is that happiness is a human right, and no one—not even your husband or in-laws—has the right to make you depressed or anxious. Instead, you should leave the environment that doesn't suit you.
Second, as children learn from their parents, if you are a mother expecting a kid, you will provide a good example for him to follow when he leaves the negative environment.
Thirdly, it's better to leave your partner rather than spend your entire life with him and survive in a hostile environment if he hasn't changed and doesn't support you in any way for his wife and child.
Furthermore, being a single mother mostly makes you fearful, but it also gives you the confidence to tackle all of life's challenges because you can do anything for your child and are self-sufficient enough to raise both of you without assistance. Women are free to live their own lives and have their own perspectives; don't be frightened to be single mother.
Endure their maltreatment
One's health may suffer if they choose not to put up with mistreatment, and there are a number of reasons why this decision might be made.
First of all, long-term maltreatment can result in mental health problems like stress, anxiety, depression, and others. It is a priority to put one's mental and emotional health above suffering abuse.
Secondly, showing self-respect is as simple as refusing to put up with mistreatment. It establishes boundaries that demonstrate to others how you want to be handled.
Thirdly, if children are involved, continuing to live in a mistreatment situation might not be the best thing for their surroundings. You can safeguard your children and yourself by leaving.
Furthermore, refusing to put up with abuse gives one the chance to develop personally and create a life that is consistent with their ideals.
Single mom
Being a single mother and caring for a child alone can be challenging for a number reasons.
First of all, there's usually only one source of money to pay for everything, including clothing, shelter, and food. It may be difficult to make ends meet as a result.
Secondly, taking on all the obligations comes with being the only parent. It can be very taxing to have no one to share the workload or decision-making. Taking care of the house, supporting the child, and juggling work may be very difficult.
Third, there may not be enough emotional support. It might be lonely at times to raise a child alone when there is no spouse to share the highs and lows with. It's critical that single mothers ask friends, family, or support groups for assistance.
Women and men are not inherently inferior. They are far more competent than men at everything. Women are capable of being housewives, businesswomen, bosses, and assistants; never underestimate their power.
DEAR LADIES!!
Develop a strong brain because life is only a mental game.