If there is something that I have come to discover, it is the fact that life has a way of giving to us what we least expect sometimes. In fact when life throw to us unexpected situations, it can be positive and at the same time it can be negative and sometimes it can be positive.
No matter how much we prepare, one of the things I have come to discover that we can not avoid is actually disappointment situations. Most of the time, whenever we experience disappointment, it can come with so much scars that it takes years to recover. Every disappointment that happens is tied to a particular expectations that didn't later manifest.
As a Nigerian I am, I will say disappointment is what we have been used to even from our little childhood days. Life has a way of humbling everyone as it comes with its own high and lows and right in front of you, you can see your expectations crumbling right in front of you. One of the things I am really grateful of is the fact that my parents taught me how to handle frustration and disappointment at the early stage of my life.
My life was prepared to see disappointment from the point of view that every disappointment is a blessing. Even though that is very true, sometimes handling the weight of the disappointment can really be choky. There was this particular disappointment I faced in my life many years ago. I was expecting one of my uncle to send my school fees. Two days to the school portal to be closed, my uncle said he wouldn't be able to pay the school fees.
Thank God for an emergency helper that showed up. Probably I might have dropped out of school. You see, handling disappointment can really be painful sometimes but I have come to discover that it is just part of life that made us to be stronger. One of the most important thing is not to avoid disappointment because whether we like it or not, we might not be able to avoid disappointment. What really matters is how we prepare our mind towards disappointment.
Most of the time, we always view disappointment from the angle that someone disappointed us. The truth is, we have also disappointed someone at one point of our lives. There was a time my close friend reached out to me for help. I thought I will be able to help because I was actually expecting some certain money from home. Unfortunately the money didn't come and that was how I was forced to disappoint my close friend. Trust me my close friend really depends on me that at particular time and it takes years for me to even recover from the guilt that I wasn't able to overcome the guilt.
One of the reason why a lot of people always find it hard to bounce back from disappointment is the fact that they did not really have any plans to back up in case if what they are expecting didn't later drop. I have learnt to actually always have a plan B every single time no matter how sure I am concerning the plan A. The reason why many of us faces disappointment that sometimes it becomes difficult for many of us to overcome is we didn't plan B when we have Plan A. One of the ways to prepare for disappointment is for you to have Plan B every single time. It will be so dangerous of you if you put all your egg in one basket.
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