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Living and growing up in quality homes breed responsible offsprings and we can see much of that in the society we live in today. The scriptures also reiterates how that we must teach a children in the way that they should grow so that at adulthood they will not depart from the quality character learnt, all the good trait and sense of responsibility would have been built in him.

Parents have been cautioned countless times to beware of the things they do before their children, these little ones are watching. You will assume that they do not know but these kids are really fast in learning things both good and bad character. When you see people showing love, care and affection for others in the society outside their homes, it should not be difficult for one to realize that such human must have come from a home saturated with love and care for one another. Society sometimes have an influence and interferes with the quality traits we have inherited, we may have seen an instance where someone who is charitable suddenly turned otherwise the reasons are not far fetched people must have abused the foundations and good qualities of life he possessed and it is now causing him to act otherwise. But in most cases these inherited traits remains unaffected regardless of societal pressure.

Growing up I have picked up some quality traits from my parents that have remained as a huge blessing to me till this day. I can boldly say that this particular one from my mummy's side is generational and has been passed on from one mother in a generation to the next.
My grandmother is the Number one mother of all mothers in my village. Nobody in the village has ever been stranded ever since she was born. Having giving birth to 13children of her own, she is hospitable, kind, caring and her door are always open to strangers.
Every breakfast, lunch or dinner is like a mini party, everyone comes around to take their own share of the family meal. It is often difficult to different my grandma's children from those of other people in the village, everybody had a common mother which is my grandma.
There is usually no specific measurements to the quantity of food we cook on daily basis, my grandma will be like "Always cook and keep extra you never know when the next visitor will be coming and he might probably come in hungry" It is her watch word to refresh every soul that comes her way.

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I cannot count the number of strangers who have passed the night in our home in the village, every lost and new person is taking to my family house to cared for.

My little apartment here is kwara is sheltering friends already, I'm not sure if I can turn back a stranger unless he/she becomes a threat to my peaceful life/living.

These traits were passed on directly to my mother of whom you also will never go hungry when you visit our house.Food has never been a problem. In my own case I have students from all angles reach out to me for foodstuffs and stipends while studying. At a point it was like I am doing a daily distribution of garri, palm oil, corn flour and even vegetables from my then garden.
I hate to see people in need and have made my friends feel so comfortable that their first emergency contact is me. Never feel shy to ask again and again I have often told them. Another thing I do advice those I reach out too is that whenever things get better for them they should look out for others they can equally assist. Let the circle of care and assistance go round.

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From my dad side one of the major things I have learnt is living peaceably with everyone. Whenever there is an issue going on in my community and nobody wants to take the lead to address such, my dad will always be at the front line, call everyone together and hold meetings to resolve issues. He is always of the opinion that we are brethren and shouldn't keep malice with each other.
I feel so ashamed of myself today writing about this, I have once had an issue with my dad that resulted into us not talking for some days.
And you know the Nigerian culture that demands that kids should always be the first to apologize even if the adults were wrong in the matter of concern. I was stubborn and wouldn't apologize to my dad, until eventually he wrote me a note to say that he was sorry and we shouldn't keep malice, you should know how I felt after that day, I kept the piece of paper for a long time but ever since then I am always the first to apologize in any incidence of misunderstanding not minding if the other person was the one at fault.
I find so much peace within myself when I live in peace with my fellow brethren. You should equally try and be the first to apologize one day and you will see that it makes a whole lot of difference.

Living peaceably, hospitable, kind and caring are the traits I have picked up from my parents and grand parents.