It has been eight years since that embarrassing experience, but I still chuckle thinking about it. I was taking a stroll out with two friends and a lady which I was interested in but was too shy to let her know.
I then asked one of my good friend then to help me break the ice and express my interest in her. Which he clearly did that very day without telling me he did.
Without warning me, my friend approached her and shared my intentions to her. I thought he was going to do that when am not there knowing fully well what a shy guy I was, but he went ahead and told her my intentions without my notice. Few minutes later he encouraged me to go talk to her, which I did, still unaware of his previous conversation with her.
As I walked alongside her, holding her hand, I thought we were just enjoying a normal stroll. Not a word was spoken between me and her, and she didn't actually mind. I then just assumed everything was going smoothly.
Days passed, and my friend open up and told me he spoke to her regarding my intentions and he was like, "(How did your conversation with her the other day?). I became confused to some extend and I decide to ask him, "Guy which conversation which you dey talk about?' he then said to me, "the very day we all were taking a stroll that I was meant to finalise everything with the lady myself because he was able to speak to her". Suddenly I became embarrassed and speechless at same time for sometime. Knowing fully well that I was a fool for not having the courage to speakout myself. It made me felt as if my friend set me up for an awkward moment without my knowledge.
The second phase of embarrassment came in a year after the first one.
Mr Abdulrahman who happen to be my geography teacher came in and forgot what his duty was or what he was assigned to do as a teacher that very day. Little did I know Mr Abdulrahman prepared to come to the class to insult the hell out of us and also humiliate me in front of the class.
Mr Abdulrahman pause his general insult to the class and glanced at me with an expression which I can't tell. He then called me out to join him at the front of the class, my heart skip a beat then started to thunder in my chest, all I ever wished was for the ground to open so I can enter and hide myself because Mr Abdulrahman happens to be the most fearsome teacher in my high school.
Few minutes later Mr Abdulrahman called me a smoker in front of the class room. The embarrassment was too much to so extend but all I could do was maintained my peace then.
Embarrassed moments in life can either build you to perfection or leave you with a stigma you can't be forgotten.
Looking back in time, I actually appreciate my friend's intention to help me but I blew it. I'm glad I was able to learn valuable lessons. I'm grateful for my friend intention and the growth that followed from that awkward moment. I continue to work on being more direct, clear, and confident in my interactions.
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