Pretending that we are well is the first lie we tell ourselves, when the sisters are not well, using phrases like: "I'm fine, I don't need help.”
I'm part of this group, I've been wrong so many times... But I take my responsibility, I feel the process, I recognize it and whenever I can, I seek professional help.
This idea of forcing ourselves to be stronger than we are, I have heard it from my mother Elsie and I heard it from my grandmother Margarita Soto, many times.
There are moments when we need to understand that everything happens, everything transforms, nothing remains static. Also to understand that suffering, burden and sorrow are not going to stay forever, it is a daily work... the important thing is to stop pretending that our emotional health is fine.
In this sense.
Those of us who emerge from this abyss of pretending that everything is perfect, it is when the night is darkest, a sign that dawn is closer, and it is in the moments where I have had the most uncertainty, and I have felt so lost, that it is precisely in that darkness where hope begins to shine brightest.
We are the ones who learn about our mistakes.
Those of us who use our failure to succeed. Life teaches us that after the storm comes calm, and what seems like an end today is actually the beginning of something new.
It is essential that we all learn to see the signs in those around us: often timely help can make a difference.
In the midst of challenges, I always remember that God is present, His presence and his love accompany us and give us strength to move forward, because every step we take brings us closer to the light of things, the one that always awaits us.
Under the layers of challenges and lived situations I carry a mountain of qualities and virtues waiting to shine.
I think all of us at some point have fallen there, into that lie, until emotionally we return to locate ourselves in the here and now, we begin to flow with our emotions and we say to ourselves: I cling to this kind, benevolent vision of myself and those around me, no matter what happens.
What does self-love do in us? This is the transformation that I observe most in myself when I make myself a priority, I talk to myself with affection. We can't heal our wounds as long as we keep pretending we're okay.
Just when you stop putting life off, you start to change. What is the solution? Learning to live today even if we have to seek help, it's up to us to take care of this.
A good idea it is...
If we make the decision and take the necessary steps, we can all become our best version. I give an example to my beloved parents who this December 20th (tomorrow Friday) will celebrate 68 years of marriage, 88-year-old dad and my beautiful 86-year-old mother, are my best mirror to understand the importance of living here and now.
Janitze 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL