That's enough! And then what?...

It's better to let go than to burst.

That's what our grandmothers and mothers made us believe, that ending a long-term relationship or getting divorced was a failure, and no, that's how I think; that's what it is... failure is to continue in an unhealthy, unproductive and unevolved relationship…

Failure is staying suffering in a failed relationship. Separating is not a failure and this applies for any bond with partners, friends and even family, ahhhhh and co-workers by the way.

A couple that is capable of loving each other freely, and that is, being able to say things without fear to the other, is a couple that endures. I've done it since the beginning of my relationship, and we've been married for 47 years.

But if it is the opposite, discomfort is not the end, but the beginning of a new path. Sometimes life pushes us out of the known to take us towards something better.

There are times when everything is a disaster, it seems chaotic, and the only thing left for you is to drop toads and snakes through your mouth. But of course, when we do we run the risk of the "flower eaters with their toxic positivism", the moralists with their emotional etiquette manual and the keyboard judges telling you how you should feel.

And you, swallowing the anger, and if it attacks us, we have to keep it there, in that dark hollow where the sunlight never gives us in our body, frustration and anger, adding and accumulating anxiety, to incidentally be pretending that everything is fine.

That's enough...! Fuck him, her or them and keep going.

To think that sometimes when one realizes how badly one has lived with this type of people and has taken too long to send everything to hell, especially because of the relief one feels to let go of the burden, that means the backpack in tow.

You have to listen to the signs, let go of what is no longer for you, open up to what the universe has prepared, trust in the process, even when everything seems like a total disaster. Will it be?

Learn to let go of what holds me back, give up what doesn't add up and allow myself a... That's enough! from time to time it is to be oneself, without the imposed social script. That's enough! In time, it's mental health. So let's call it catharsis, chakra alignment, lol But the truth is that if one keeps the arrechera, the contrariety, sooner or later one explodes.

Especially with the super toxic positives and the moralists who don't even know what to do with their own lives...

So if everything went wrong for us today, if life has screwed us the day and we didn't manage to see any glimmer of light, "we have to do the right thing " send everything to the fuck, take a deep breath and move on.

Learning to say no is to set limits, it is to understand that our mental peace is non-negotiable.

Janitze 🦋