Hello friends of this community; The title of the publication is a very good question, because everyone at some point has felt this: sometimes we feel love for someone, but we also feel that we need to leave and I'm not just talking about relationships, this also happens with the family, you may be with your mother, with your brother, with someone you really love and still you think "this relationship is not right", "I need to leave", "I need to get away".

So the first thing to understand is that we should not feel guilty for taking care of our needs first, many people believe that taking distance is abandoning the other, but in reality it is quite the opposite, you are taking care of yourself first so that you can then take care of the other, now, when we have feelings for someone our natural reaction is to want to stay, we want it to work, we do not want to walk away.

But what happens when the relationship is not good, when no matter how hard we try, things do not change, how do we handle that conflict between wanting to stay and at the same time knowing that deep down we need to leave, that is when that moment arrives, you look ahead and think, “I already did everything I could do”, “I already tried everything I could”, but nothing changes.

That's when that painful dilemma appears "I know I have to move on, but it hurts too much", we cling so much to the idea that maybe, if we try one more time, if we have a little more patience, if we find a way to do things differently, everything can change, but there comes a point where we realize that there is nothing more we can do and to be honest, one of the first signs that we are making the right decision is that deep down we already know it, we already know that that is the right decision.

We can try to deceive ourselves, we can try to find excuses, cling to nostalgia, but there is a part within us that tells us very clearly this is the path and that voice is the one that, even if it hurts, is guiding us in the right direction, because the truth is that moving forward does not mean that the pain disappears immediately, it does not mean that everything will suddenly be fine, that one day you will wake up without nostalgia, without sadness, without fear, without doubts.

The process of letting go is never linear. There will be days in which you will feel more at peace with your decision and others in which everything will remind you of what you have left behind, but that does not mean that you should return, it only means that you are human because change, no matter how necessary, always implies loss and loss, no matter how much it hurts, is part of growth.

So, even though now you feel like you can't take it anymore, even though the emptiness seems too big, trust that that voice inside you is not wrong and one day without realizing it the pain will no longer weigh so much, the nostalgia will no longer stop you and you will look back understanding that all this was part of a much larger process, this is how you move forward not without pain but in spite of it.

Fortunately or unfortunately, growing, moving forward and changing always involve letting go of something, you cannot have everything at the same time, you cannot stay where you feel safe and at the same time expect the new, the different; Change always requires going through a void, a moment of uncertainty in which everything seems confusing.

And yes, many times that emptiness is scary, sometimes you have to take a step back to push yourself and when you least realize it, you have already advanced much further than you imagined, because growth does not feel comfortable in the moment, many times, it does not even seem like growth, rather it seems like loss, it seems like chaos, it seems like a mistake, but over time you look back and understand that it was exactly what you needed to get where you are now.

It's not the end of the world, we all go through this at some point and what really makes the difference is not the situation itself, but the perspective with which we approach the situation, it's about how you choose to look at the situation, about learning to trust your intuition, even when the path is still not entirely clear, because in the end, that intuition will always be stronger than any doubt, you can see it as the end of something or you can see it as the beginning of something bigger.

You can focus on what you lost or you can open yourself to what you are about to gain, when you decide to walk away from something or someone, it is inevitable that memories appear, because that was your reference point, your Comfort zone, the known always calls us back, not because it is the best but because it is what is familiar to us.

It's like when you decide to leave your house to go live alone, at first everything is excitement, everything is new, but then those thoughts of Soledad arrive: "I would have done well to leave", "what if I had stayed" and of course that nostalgia is normal, but if you look deeper you will realize that there is something inside you that continues to push forward, because once you start to grow, even if you look back you know that you can no longer be the same person, fear is part of the process.

And uncertainty too, but you cannot build a new life if you continue holding what no longer belongs to you, so, even if it hurts, even if there are doubts, even if nostalgia makes you question everything, listen to that inner voice that deep down already knows the answer, you are on the right path.