People often say women believe their earnings belong to them alone while that of their husbands for the household. While that may hold true for some women, is it right? Well you see money matters tend to have so many rules about them, some written others no so spelled out, but one thing is for sure, If you can hide money from your spouse, income or not, then you can as well hide what you use the money for. Where there’s a lot of hiding, it may be difficult to prove that there’s love in that home!
Money can’t be separated from love; more on this later. I think if every couple that have ever had money issues will examine their situation well, they will realise that it is not really the money that caused the problem, it’s the betrayed trust, or lack of. It’s the lie, the deceit that sparks anger and resentment most times. If the same financial difficulties were to be presented right from the onset of the problem, it becomes the couple’s problem and not just a burden for one person to carry.
But before there are money problems, is there a rule about money in your home? I think it is wise to set sine ground rules as a couple because if there are no rules, anything can happen. If one persone is the breadwinner, maybe have a way to show your income and how you both intend to spend and save, if you both work, then maybe decide who pays for what and what goes into savings. As I stated earlier, you can not separate love from money “where you treasure is….” Okay maybe I am using the quote wrong, but if you love someone, you’d want them to know every single thing about you and that includes your income.
Are there exceptions?
I belive in many situations, this arrangement will be a disaster. I should state that as a woman, it is unfair to think your money is yours alone while that of a man belongs to the home. we often forget feminism when it comes to matters like these, but if you have a responsible man, help him, don’t spend your income on things that will not matter when love is gone. When you’re married you become ne and so dors your income; if you trust each other so well, then a joint account might be awesome, I don’t have one and I do not plan on having one with my husband, we trust each other enough to not waste family money.
Mind you, I am not saying you should not spend your money on yourself as a woman, you can do as you wish with your money, but remember that your family is also your responsibility too and not your husband’s alone, except of course he earns like too much money that you don’t need to work or your contribution means nothing. I’d still contribute however.
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Picture used is my husband’s first YouTube earnings, posted with his permission