The things we do to get answers and clarity can sometimes be perceived as insensitive, especially by others. We live in a society where people are selective about the types of problems they may face. This explains why it is so easy to pass judgment. When we do not understand or justify someone else's actions, we rush to judge them without first putting ourselves in their shoes.
The reason we do not put ourselves in the shoes of others is that the parameters of our lives do not suggest that we will ever have the problems they do. For example, when people see people living with HIV, it is easy to assume they got it through unprotected sex, and then we inwardly judge them for doing so, without even considering the possibility that some people are born with it.
Because we believe it is always through sex, we believe we will never be in such compromising situations, so we unintentionally judge them. True, there may be situations or problems that we are not likely to encounter, but life is unpredictable, and things happen even when the odds are stacked against us.
Life produces shallow-minded people, not by choice, but by default.
Why So?
Some people simply live in their cocoons, living their small lives and not experiencing primary problems. Living a small life blinds you to the depths of life, which is why some people believe cancer is a white or poor man's disease. Things we do not expect can happen to us; the fact that they have not or have not happens to us simply demonstrates that life has a way of being fortunate and unlucky for some people, regardless of what we do.
How Can Your Mental Health Be Tested?
A person's mental health is truly tested when they face situations over which they are not naturally wired to have control. The more you go through life's experiences, the more expansive, understanding, compassionate, and open you will become. However, it is not always beneficial to learn compassion through experience. There are people for whom difficult times worsen. People lose their humanity as a result of pain and hurt, and others simply give up on life due to pain and loss.
Only a few people are fortunate to be refined and made better by pain. This is why people who were abused as children are more likely to be abusers themselves: they did not heal, hardened, and ended up unintentionally becoming the things they experienced.
Back to seeking clarity.
Some people will go to extreme lengths to find out who their parents are and why they abandoned them for adoption, leaving them to suffer. That question lingers in their hearts; the pain and curiosity consume them, and if they do not find the answers, it may consume them from within. Knowing the answers to these questions may not provide a solution, but it may help to heal them artificially. We frequently underestimate the importance of healing.
For me,
I have had questions my entire life, and now that I am older, I am eager to have them answered, but there is no one to do so. It is not like knowing the answers will un-ruin me, if that is the right word. It will just provide some clarification. Spilling our guts can sometimes be extremely beneficial. Keeping things bottled up turns people into molten magma, and until they erupt like a volcano, they will most likely succumb to their anger and pain.
This Is Why Social Spaces Have Become A a Hub For Sentiment
Social media has become a platform for ranting. We live in a world where people die in silence, and sometimes we spill some of that pain in a place where it is easy to remain anonymous; where you can speak without being spoken back to or condemned.
Once you start asking questions, you can never go back to being free
It's long road with no return ticket
This is because, while clarity usually reveals your status, brings you peace, or eliminates uncertainty, the process of seeking answers can be illogical. This is why we sometimes devote all of our resources to finding answers. In the twenty-first century, life is more mentally challenging. It is difficult to understand.
The more we expand, the more side effects we experience. Living a life full of questions can be difficult, especially when others think you are insane for wanting answers. This is why life is harsh on people who appear to be different in terms of health, finances, mental health, and emotional well-being.
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