It is filled with ups and downs both from our social relationships, families and our own self as well.
We thrive and work hard to secure a good paying job or a business that gives us reasonable passive income. Some people achieve this, while some remain in a portfolio income and others have not income but depend on the generational wealth passed down to them by their Father.
Love on the other hand is a beautiful thing, all depending on the way you manage it. It can elevate you, brin about your progress in life and it can depreciate you and bring about your downfall in life, all still depending on how you manage it and how genuine it is.
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It has become a normal practice for people to be born, grow, get a good paying job, fall in love and marry a beautiful wife, give birth beautiful children and manage the family. One thing that has proven to be a challenge is managing love and work at the same time.
On its own, love is enough stress to keep up with, however managing both together can be really exhausting.
I don't have enough experience based on this context because I am not married yet, but I have been in a genuine love relationship and I will share my experience of combining love, school and work at the same time.
So, as a student schooling in Abia state, I run this provision store in imo state and i have my brother managing it for me. It is not a big store though but it brings something to the table.
When it comes to my store, I embark on factual and rational decisions and not based on sentiment or something and as such, I am always strict and do not condole any form of unreasonable decisions by my brother. The store has been thriving for itself and bringing profit but I needed to upgrade, even if it is a little.
By then, I was still in a relationship and I asked my girlfriend for her opinion but the things she was telling me was not making sense to me, so I just brushed her off by changing the topic immediately.
I tried different ways I knew but none was giving the expected growth, so I just left it. After awhile, my girlfriend (then) asked me if I have implemented what she told me, but I replied with a No. She asked me why but I did not come up with a reasonable explanation which made her really annoyed. She started blabbing, saying I don't trust her words, saying all sought of things and making me feel bad, like i do not see her as being capable of making a decision. I apologized, and did not bother to bring up any excuse because I know it will fuel the argument. To prove her wrong and prove me right, I decided to carry out her plans with my own back up plan in case of her plan fails. When I implemented her plans, I was surprised to see that after a short while, the store reached the level I wanted and even surpassed it.
I was happy and had to make it up to her. After that incident, I learnt that factuality don't win in all cases.
Love can still be stressful especially when having a fight with your partner. I can remember few months ago, I had an exams to write but unfortunately, I and my girlfriend (then) had a fight. Normally, I would leave her to do what she wants and go for my exams, but I could not bring my self to see her cry because of me. I had to sacrifice my exams so I could calm her down and settle things with her. Though she said she's fine, and I should go for the exams, I knew deep down that she may do something stupid if I left because the argument was heated. The settlement took almost 5 hours because after one round of convincing to settle, she will still bring up an already settled thing. Lol. It was really stressful for me and I had to sleep immediately the everything was settled completely because I was really exhausted. Thank God I called the exam center and they decided t give me a make up exams which I wrote and passed.
ARE THESE SOMETHING I WILL WANT TO DO AGAIN?
Love is stressful, but in the midst of the stress, genuine love knows no stress.
If I have to, I will leave everything one earth just to make sure that the lady I love feels okay. Irrespective of the fact that the relationship did not go well, I will still make sacrifices greater than the one I made in my past relationship because I don't allow my past to define me, I define me and my future.
I will also still listen to the next lady I decide to date when she gives me business suggestions. But well, I will still have a back up plan in case her plans failed.
Thank you for reading ☺️.
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