Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant, and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who is incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you? Would you rather endure their maltreatment, or walk out on your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?
This question gat me thinking because, it's one of the things inexperienced in life and i want to answer it based on my ow personal experience. Premarital sex is rampant actually among young poeple including matured adults too. But, if i @chichieze got pregnant out of wedlock and got encountered with rude in-laws and a partner who is not capable of standing by himself or by me, at first, I will endure their maltreatment. But if it continues to the point where my life is in danger, I won't only walk away, i will run away from the relationship, hehehe.
What to do when encountered with rude in-laws and incapable partner/why?
In a situations like this, it's not always easy to bear such maltreatment from the in-laws. Personally, i will endure their maltreatment withing a period of time since we are not legally married yet. Then, i will like to talk some sense into my partners heart and allow him to make decisions. As time's goes on and the maltreatment continued, i will let my partner know that i will leave him if he doesn't stand up and defend himself and his family which is me and our child. But if nothing is done about it, i will gently walk away and train my child alone.
I rather become a single mother than losing my joy, happiness, freedom and at the end my life in a toxic relationship and rude in-laws. Life is too sweet and shot to spend it with toxic poeple. That i mistakingly got pregnant from my boy friend doesn't necessarily means we must marry. It was just a mistake that can be corrected. I dont need to be maltreatment in the name of relationship because relationship and marriage was made to be enjoyed not maltreatment.
So, i will rather walk out of maltreatment relationship and train my child alone because if i didn't go and lose my life at the end due to maltreatment, who then will care for the child for me? Those that maltreated me? Not possible. The incapable father? Not at all. Some women have lost their lives due to maltreatment from the in-laws or incapable partners too. I won't be among and I will never be. Though it's not easy to raise a child alone. But if are industrious as a lady, you will win the battle. Besides, that doesn't stop you from getting married in future. I can only endure in-laws maltreatment if my partner is capable of defending himself and me. If not, see me see going haha.
My fellow ladies of Hive and other ladies out there, i advise you not to die in a single mistake you made. Always have something doing, so that no man will take you for granted even if pregnancy occurred during friendship. Once you see sings of danger, kindly walk away and care for yourself and chid. At the end, God will definitely take you to a better home with a rightful partner.
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