I have come to realise that happiness is a function of choice, which is without recourse to what is happening or not happening. The world and nature itself may be presenting you with some scenario that may want to create sadness within you, but you still need to make a choice to be happy. In a world full of anyhowness, happiness becomes ultimate. You may not have a choice of what nature will bring to you, but you have a choice of how you allow it to affect you. Being happy or sad is oftentimes not a function of what has happened but what you make of what has happened. So choose to be happy.
In order to achieve a state of happiness, there are things you need to observe and we shall touch some of them. Firstly, you need learn to be contented with life and with what you have. It does not mean that you should not pursue after your ambition or career, but it prevents you from doing it in a get-it-by-any-means way. You have to take out time for a moment to appreciate what you have and it will trigger happiness within you. What you have, if you will think positively of it, you will see how that you are indeed blessed. You have to be satisfied and contented with what you have while hoping for something better. I have observed that the people who are not satisfied with the little may not also be satisfied even with plenty. To be happy, you have to learn contentment.
In addition to contentment, you also need to avoid the competition mentality. You have to understand that no matter what you have or do not have, you cannot have it all and you cannot lack it all. There is something you have that others do not have and there are what others have that you do not have. You are not in a competition for the highest achiever because what you call achievement might just be a starting point for someone else. Moreover, you have a different pathway and destiny in life which is different from others. Everyone, in the journey of life, has a different destination. Following after someone who is not going to your destination will make you to miss your own journey.
If you want to be happy, then you should not use someone else's possession as a yardstick to what an achievement should be. If a fish, for example, starts to compete with a bird for who can fly, it will live its whole believing that it has not achieved anything, whereas it can swim and the bird cannot. One of the major undoings of many people, which can also makes one unhappy is competition. This is because what you compete with others for is what you can see, and this can be their area of strength. But there is also their area of weakness that you do not know about. Before competing with others, just know that they are not perfect. Focus on yourself and be happy.
Another thing to help make you create happiness is to have happy people surround you. Anyone that always makes you sad or unhappy is not meant to be your friend. I remember some months back when one of my new acquaintances at that time always comes around with negative news about what is happening. Each time he came around, he would talk about negativities. After a while, I had to ask him if there is nothing positive that is happening around him because he would always talk about negative happenings, and it was already starting to affect me. Well, I had to make a choice to keep off from him, to secure my happiness. Company with happy people and watch how you will become happier.
The last tip that we will consider, which can greatly improved your level of happiness is to learn to live each moment as it comes and focus on each day. You may not have a control of the past and you also may not predict the future, but you can live the present so well that it can influence the future. Instead of focusing on what you cannot change and then end up being sad when it does not change, it is better to change only what you can, and accept what you cannot. Remember that in life, you have the responsibility for your happiness, so choose to make yourself happy.
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