There are a lot of these. Dating is a lot harder for men than the average woman would realize.

Consistent Rejection

Men can't just wait for a woman to ask them out. It's a scarce thing. Men have to make the first move and face all the pressure in their dating lives to get the things they want. Wanting to date a woman again and again only for her to have zero interest back can be highly exhausting.

A lot of men can be harsh on themselves in these moments. Tearing themselves down. It's so heartbreaking. Yet, it's something that is often taken for granted.

Worst they can say is "No"

This is a common thing told to men when they want to ask a woman out. But there is so much worse. Occasionally, the woman may be terrified at his gesture. They may say something like "ew," "gross," or make any other rude comments. I have heard from countless men that women don't always reject him kindly.

Invalidation When He's Upset

We have all heard the quotes like "Be a Man" and "Man Up." Or "Don't be a p****y". We always talk about how invalidating men can be regarding feelings, but it's often considered appropriate to make comments like this, which is incredibly hurtful. And it has had a long-term impact on our men. They struggle with mental illness and often keep everything to themselves to avoid hearing one of these awful phrases.

" Man Up"

A phrase often said to men at times. He usually does his absolute best, but it's still not enough in these moments. When I see a woman who is doing her best and falling short, Receiving kind words and encouragement. We should be more encouraging to men too.

She Liked him all along.

When men have that moment, they realize that the woman they like has been flirting with them all along. It's one of those face-palm moments. He missed the "hints". And he would have reciprocated if he would have known. This is a huge reason why I wish more women would just be blunt in these situations.

Being Blamed For What Other Men Did

I love it when I hear a conversation between women, and they are talking poorly about their last relationship, But you never see them word it in a way that would be "all men." They simply talk about frustrations they have had with a specific man. It's all too common to stumble across a variety of blog posts, Videos, and conversations where it's something along the lines of;
Men do _______ (Insert something negative here. That is only true about a sliver of men.)
"I hate men."
"Men hate women."
Seriously?
And I know that the standard argument back is, "It's obviously not all men". A lot of men feel blamed already for the actions of a small portion of men. I can't imagine how exhausting that must be.

Being told to open up

Then it's used against you. I've seen this happen so many times. I also hear of women wanting men to be more emotionally available. We need to do our part, By NEVER using these things against him.

The more men I talk to, The more I realize there are so many things they struggle with every day that are never talked about.